A Letter to Daniel: Our Family Day Out at the RSAF 55 Open House

Dear Daniel,

Last week, we went on an adventure that was a first for our family—our trip to the RSAF 55 Open House. You know how much you love planes, from the big commercial jets to the sleek fighter jets. The excitement bubbling in our home was palpable; we were all geared up for a day of roaring engines and sky-high marvels. But, as Mama and Papa knew, there was a little cloud of concern looming over us—how you'd react to the loud sounds.

We managed to navigate the snaking queues to get into the air show. Your energy was bubbling, eyes wide with anticipation, a spring in your step. But then came the moment—the first jet roared overhead, ripping the calm sky apart with its sheer power. You clung to me tightly, eyes squinting, discomfort written all over your face.

Honestly, I got frustrated, Daniel. For a moment, I thought, "Why can't he be like other kids who seem okay with the loud noises?" I even muttered some words comparing you to others as you held on to me. Even though I knew this might happen, in that moment, my frustration got the better of me.

It took Mama's gentle reminder to centre me. She told me that every child is different, and maybe you weren't ready for the roar of those jet engines just yet. That made me remember something crucial—sometimes, it's us parents who are at fault when we find ourselves frustrated. I realised I had set expectations for a fun family outing without thinking about how you might feel. My idea of fun shouldn't be more important than your comfort or happiness.

I felt bad, Daniel. In that moment, when you needed me most, to comfort and shield you from what scared you, I failed. I'm sorry for the harsh words and for forgetting what truly matters—your well-being.

This experience was a lesson, not just about the jets or the air show, but about being a Dad. I learned that putting my family first is not just about our outward actions; it's about how I think and feel in any given situation. Even when it's natural to be frustrated or impatient, I need to remember that what you or Mummy needs from me is far more important than any expectation I might have.

So, Daniel, the next time we venture into something new, I promise to be better prepared—not just with earplugs or snacks, but with an open heart and mind, ready to put you and our family first, no matter what.

All my love,

Papa